Hi everyone. I need some cultural reality checks because my anxiety is telling me stories I don’t trust.
I’m a 44-year-old bi female, I met a 23- year-old Korean influencer (Kosi) on Korea Social app, about 10 days ago. She was friendly, never asked for money, and actually asked me for an audio with my voice because she didn’t believe I was a woman at first. She then moved our conversation to Line App.
Things got complicated when I accidentally accused her of being a scammer (after I saw the word “alaye” during our 1st conversation on the dating app, and other few red flags. She told me it hurt her feelings (“You made me feel bad”) and said I took her for granted. And that she used that word making reference to scammers using it and asking if I was, not because she was one. I apologized sincerely 3 times, and told her “I still would like us to get to know each other” She replied with “Same here” on Friday, May 22nd.
Since then, total silence. It’s been 5 days. My messages are unread. I’ve been asking for her forgiveness, asking when’s a good time to talk, but nothing.
I know Koreans tend to move slow in dating, and we never really got to have a proper conversation. I’m in deep emotional pain over this and can’t stop thinking about what I did wrong.
Her Korea Social profile is deactivated, but I can still see her moving profile photo on Line, she has not block me, and she swore those are her real social media accounts. She’s an influencer in SK.
Given the cultural context and our brief, rocky start, is 5 days of silence a normal “cooling off” period, or should I take it as a sign to move on? When do you think I’ll hear from her, if at all?
Any advice, especially from those familiar with Korean dating culture, would be appreciated.
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