In his recent live stream, Choi San from Ateez shared some thoughts that really stuck with me. The way he talks about self-worth, handling difficult people, and protecting your peace is so wise and comforting, and I wanted to share his words here:
“I want everyone listening right now to know that you already matter. You’re already enough. You’re so precious just as you are, and I hope you don’t let other people’s words get to you. You’re already worthy… You’re here, you’re alive, you’re breathing, and we’re sharing this moment together. To me, that’s something incredibly precious. So even if you get hurt, or life knocks you around sometimes, it’s okay, it’ll pass. Everything passes. The good times pass, and the hard times pass too. The people who judge you or speak badly about you simply haven’t learned how to love yet. Maybe all they need is someone to show them how… if you can, feel compassion for them. If you have it in you, show them kindness. And if you don’t, that’s okay too. Just let it go, ignore them, and keep moving forward. You’re going to be okay.“
Why San’s approach to life is so comforting:
• You matter just by existing
San strips away all the conditions society places on worth—productivity, success, pleasing others—and roots value in the simple act of existing. To him, just breathing and sharing time together is inherently precious. It’s an immediate remedy to the constant burnout so many people feel.
• A gentle way to look at mean people
Instead of getting angry at people who tear others down, San reinterprets hostility as a lack of love. Saying that people who hurt other people “simply haven’t learned how to love yet” is such a compassionate, elevated way to perceive hate. It reframes cruelty not as a reflection of your flaws, but as a reflection of their emotional poverty.
• It’s okay to just protect your peace
The best part of his whole message is what he says at the very end. People often say you should always respond with kindness, but trying to do that when you’re hurt is draining. San tells us that if you don’t have the energy for that, it’s completely fine to just walk away and let it go. He reminds us that taking care of our own heart comes first, and we don’t need to feel guilty for setting that boundary.
San is always so deeply compassionate and thoughtful toward everyone around him. He possesses a level of maturity and wisdom well beyond his age, combined with a rare kind of emotional intelligence that allows him to offer comfort without ever sounding superficial. Moments like this show how truly special he is—not just as an artist, but as a person. He serves as a gentle reminder that being a good human being starts with how we treat others, but ultimately ends with how kindly we treat ourselves. In a world that can often feel loud and critical, having someone like San remind us of that is a truly comforting gift ❤️🩹
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