Please read all of this before making any judgement.
I’m an older sister to somebody who is obsessed with Korea. No, not K-pop obsessed or culture obsessed or food obsessed. But she is obsessed with how the air must smell and how the people are. She is obsessed with the history of everything Korea (past, present and future). She has more faith in Korea and it’s people than she has in herself.
My sister and I come from a tough upbringing and because of this she has no memory of the first 18 years of her life. We were very troubled and she simply blocked it out until she felt safe. Because she started retaining memories when she was 18, she doesn’t remember anything about high school or even when she tried to go to college. She remembers me talking about possibly getting stationed in Korea and she did her research. That’s where it all began. The idea of moving to Korea became a comfort for her. She said it was like she was a bird and she found her wings.
At the age of 20/21 she moved across the USA to live with me. We were both still healing from abusive family members and emotional issues. She never went to college and focused on herself. Which I think is understandable.
Now she is 26 and is still dreaming of Korea. She has even limited the amount of clothes and personal items she allows herself to own because she wants to be able to move with her important stuff. She has a cat that is her entire life and she often breaks down in tears over not going to Korea with this cat. Right now she’s working two minimum wage jobs and still living with me. She tried to save all the money she can.
As her older sister I’m concerned and I do not know what to do to help her. She has something in her where it is a necessity to move to Korea. She says He feels it in her soul and her bones that it is her true home— and that means a lot since we didn’t have a real home growing up.
What does she need to do as a 26 year old who has never gone to college, works retail and does not have a lot of money to get to Korea? I am clueless and don’t know how to help her. But she’s breaking down. She’s 26 and doesn’t see her life continuing if she’s not in Korea. She wants to be able to give her best years in youth to the country and she views herself as useless if she gets any older. It breaks my heart. I don’t know if she can apply for anything or if she should be aiming for a specific job?
Please, any advice or thoughts would be of great help. I’m very overwhelmed and very concerned. She’s my little sister and I want to be able to see her reach her greatness.
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