Before, I was obsessed with Kpop, especially at 13, when I was on Stan Twitter. I don’t regret that much, because I was at a pretty low point and needed “comfort”. But I feel bad for people 18+ and still in their Kpop stan phase. I don’t care if you disagree because you feel called out, but this is a hard truth.
You don’t love these idols. You’re attracted to them at most. Because even if you spent everyday watching every single content they released, posting on Twitter every hour, you don’t truly know them and you don’t like them because you’ve never even had a real relationship with them. Let’s say you’re a Stay and that’s just a random example because I was/am a Stay but that applies for all groups. You’re not a Stay because Stray Kids are “special”. You just happened to choose them for your daily escapism. Deep down you probably don’t give a fuck. No one gives a fuck that they have good personnalities, good talent and good looks. Everyone has got other things to care about and you just gaslight yourself into thinking you love them just to prove you’re a real fan.
Let’s be honest. Most of us are in this kpop fandom rabbithole for one of these reasons:
– For a sense of community, and a fandom is one of the best ways to give a false sense of it. You feel good and important because you’re part of something much bigger.
– Something related: for followers. I noticed how everyone on Stan Twitter is desperate for followers. They always interact with “oomfs” that they’ve never met before and don’t give a fuck about, they go on groupchats and post tweets asking for moots. Again they want to feel a temporary sense of self worth.
– Because they genuinely have a fujoshi kink, or again because they’re lonely and desire a boyfriend/girlfriend.
No one actually loves these idols. We’re all gaslighting ourselves. Even the jobless people who are always like “Stream this!” “Vote for that!” at the age of 20.
But if you’re still doing that (and I’m not talking about regular Kpop fans, I’m a regular Kpop fan too. I’m talking about hardcore stans, those who stream, watch content, vote, spend their entire life on Twitter, spend their entire life savings in merch and concerts). Take a minute to process my words before getting angry. Is this the life you want for yourself? Spending your life “supporting” or “defending” idols who don’t give a fuck about you, and whom you don’t give a fuck about either? Everyone has got their life goals. So make them happen. Or at least try. Before you regret ever doing that on your deathbed. These idols already got their shit together (unless they’re nugu but at least they accomplished something) and don’t need you. Especially if you’re 30+ or if you have kids already. Create the life you’d want for your kids. I’ve seen some mothers on Stan Twitter. That’s very sad, sorry but I wouldn’t be proud of my mom if she was chronically online for some random celebrities. Thankfully mine acts like an adult.
By the way I don’t really care if you think that’s corny or whatever, this is a motivation post for victims of kpop addiction.
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