I need some advice. I recently got into kpop, and i genuinely love it.(I’m 14F btw) i’m not sure if this is the right community, and i’ll take it down in a bit after i receive advice, but, essentially, i want advice on how to give up on my dream of becoming an idol. recently, i’ve starting to want to become an idol REALLY BAD, it looks so fun, and being with a group of all your friends and people your close with, and the amount of love and popularity you get from fans really appeals to me. For me, I think this is mostly about the fame, as i’ve always wanted to be famous, but getting into kpop and discovering idols and all REALLY heightened that. But, i also want to ask if my want for fame could be linked to more innate problems within myself(or if ive just been overthinking it lmao), if it could be an indication of some dissatisfaction, or need for validation and approval and love?? But,to be honest, my life is nowhere near bad enough( i live in a first world country with a multitude of friends who i genuinely love)for me to have dissatisfaction from it, but i could never be content with my life. I’ve also been a maladaptive daydreamer since around 8 years old(and recently i’ve been obviously maladaptively daydreaming about being an idol), so maybe that could have something to do with it, and also slightly abusive parents, but only slightly. Using those facts and info, maybe someone could tell me if i have issues within myself linking to it, or if my want to be an idol is just natural. i want to be content with my life, but i just CANT. everytime i think of being an idol i get come over with an insurmountable amount of sadness, pain and loss of a dream, becuase ive tried soo soo hard to convince myself to not want to become an idol, because its just impossible, yet my heart still hurts soo much and i feel so sad, and i get so sad whenever i watch content, which is bad cuz i really want to enjoy and love the groups. i want advice on how to be content with my own,private life, and how to fully let go of this dream, and if my want for fame could say something about me im relatively very new to reddit and don’t know how communities work but i really need some ideas. thank uou all
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