This isn’t a rage post. No scandals, no betrayals. I’m talking about something more subtle when you slowly stop feeling attached to an idol you genuinely liked or admired.
There wasn’t a single moment where it all changed. No big announcement. No controversy. They’re still doing well. Still talented. Still the same person you used to follow closely. But for some reason… you’re just not as invested anymore.
Maybe your interests shifted. Maybe the connection faded gradually. Or maybe the version of them that mattered to you only existed at a certain time in your life — and now you’ve both just… moved on.
And that’s a strange thing about being a fan: Sometimes you don’t stop liking someone, you just stop relating to them.
I’ve found myself going through this a couple of times. Not out of spite, not even disappointment. Just that quiet realization that their music doesn’t hit like it used to, their updates don’t excite you, and you stop checking for comebacks.
It’s not sad, exactly. But it does feel like something has shifted.
So I’m curious:
Have you ever “unstanned” someone without really planning to?
What made the connection fade — was it them, or was it you?
Do you think this happens more as you grow older with K-pop?
Not looking for drama just curious how others have processed that quiet detachment. Maybe it’s just part of being a fan for a long time.
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