I’ve noticed a pattern while casually dating Korean men through apps, and I’m curious whether this is more of an individual thing or if there’s some cultural aspect to it.
Before meeting, the communication is often extremely fast and attentive — lots of texting, flirting, making plans, romantic energy, etc. And in person, the dates themselves can feel very emotionally intense and affectionate.
But after saying goodbye, the communication sometimes suddenly slows down a lot, becomes inconsistent, or even turns into ghosting.
To be clear, these were casual situations on both sides, so I’m not talking about commitment expectations. I’m more confused by the contrast between the strong emotional energy in person vs. the sudden emotional distance afterward.
What confuses me is that I’ve dated people from other countries too, and even if things faded naturally, it usually felt more gradual. Sometimes we still stayed in touch as friends afterward. But with these experiences, the shift in energy felt much more sudden and extreme, which made me wonder if there’s a different communication style or emotional pacing involved.
I’ve experienced this twice now with Korean men so I’m wondering:
Have other people noticed something similar? Is this just modern dating app culture, personality differences, or is there sometimes a cultural communication gap involved?
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