I currently live in America and am married with a disabled younger sister who is dependent on me. Me and my husband struggle a lot here in America and I’m not disillusioned to the struggle we will have in Korea if we were to move there. We both lack higher forms of education and have only every worked entry level jobs. I bring this topic up with full understanding that the road ahead would be difficult if traversed, but we have no family here. I have struggled a lot this last few years and have genuinely felt the fact that I have no support system outside of my husband. Who too has no support system. We’ve made wonderful friends but they are also struggling and worried about their families.
I have an older half sister who I love and keep in contact regularly who is native Korean. She lives there with her family and is always telling me to move, I know it’s a joke because she misses me a lot but at the same time, if I could I would. I struggle to keep our younger sister healthy due to the fact healthcare is ridiculously expensive here. I’m already struggling here but I’d at least be able to afford her healthcare in Korea at least by my older sisters standard. I am not fluent in the language yet but I’m determined to become so, I’m already learning so I can speak with my sisters family. So at least I’d be able to get an entry level job at most when the time comes. I think. But if I were to move there I’d have my older sister. The only of my family that matters left, that and her mother adores us as well. And even if I was struggling I just want to be next to family again. I have a niece and she’s growing to be so big! I haven’t properly seen her since my mothers funeral 8 years ago and it makes me so sad to know that I’m not in her life.
My husband is also very tired and is 100 percent open to the idea. Ofc thats all it is right now just an idea. But because it’s a foreign country and the state of the world is really rough right now especially for Americans as our country is falling apart, I worry a lot. ATP I’m like fuck it id rather be homeless in Korea where family is if im gonna be homeless in America where there is none. But thats mainly emotional stress and exhaustion speaking
Obviously i would want avoid that haha. Which is why im here. Where would i even start if i was to turn this idea into a plan? Visa, education, career, living arrangements, plus bringing my husband and younger sister. my older sister and her family jokes about helping us move there but i know that if i sat down and was prepared to actually do so they would 100% follow through with helping me. This also wouldn’t be for a few years either way as i would need to save up a bit and have an actual idea of what to do, that and I’d like to be fluent in the language before i move.
I’m also thinking about going back to school here, and wonder if it would be best to wait until I finish a higher education before entertaining the idea of leaving and if so what career path would make this move easier on my family.
I guess at this point I’m really lost on the direction I want to take my life and I’m truly wondering if this is worth pursuing just because i miss being near family. Any advice from those who have moved there?
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